The Pain of Perfectionism


Ok…so I have been rediscovering my love of Pintrest! I don’t know about you , but I love that place! It is full of great ideas, awesome projects, and a sense of inspiration! However, I really think that it also brings a sense of failure. Sometimes I find it leave me thinking I don’t craft enough, play with my girls enough, or make enough learning moments. Does anyone else think that? Well I do. It is awful and I know that I should really just keep myself sane, but really it happens. I don’t feel like I am doing a very good parenting job. After all, we really aren’t having amazing play time with them, I am don’t tell them that its ok to cry all the time, and I sure as heck make sure that the house is clean (which it taking time away from them right?). But then I stop. My kids are happy, smart, creative, and engaged. I don’t do everything right, in fact I don’t do a lot of the things that all those beautiful parenting articles on Pintrest tell me I should. But I love my kids and I think that they know that despite my not being the perfect mom. Then I thought that the thing that I am being plagued with is perfectionism plain and simple! It is something that has plagued man since the beginning of time and I don’t why I should be exempt from it. Perfectionism….the irony of this is that I have been thinking so  much about how to help Bunny not worry so much about doing everything perfectly in her school work! Yet here I am doing the same thing. Ok….I am not throwing a fit that I didn’t do it right, but I may be cringing, even crying on the inside. So I guess we are more alike then I thought. So what do we do? I will never do all the amazing art projects and take hours a day to play with my kids. You may never spend hours making Montessori materials or cooking homemade baked goods. But does it really matter? Just like I try to calm Bunny down by telling her that she doesn’t need to do everything right every time, I should also realized that I am not going to be perfect…..ever! And its ok. I think that we really over pressed to be a perfect mommy by making sure that our kids have every opportunity and be that in the back yard or in a class, we are all trying to kill ourselves to make it happen. Why? Does it matter? We are moms, doing our best to love and care for our kids…..the best way we know how for us! So here’s is all to you hard working moms out there! Here’s to not letting perfectionism make us (or our kids) crazy! Here is to parenting! Its the best!